Thanks. It was workplace harassment [kind of against me, but accused of me]. Thankfully I had already reported the woman for weird activities: constantly insisting I join her Amway group; we were consultants and she tried in a very obvious way and without asking to hook me up with a client; asking me to come visit her house; some other stuff. The false claim against me came when I finally told her I didn’t want to join her Amway group. I did not harass her in any way. She also did weird things to our reporting manager, and, since I kept an open door policy and did not socialize with her, it was pretty easy to add her overall strange activities, the rejection of her Amway harassing, and no place or time in which I could have harassed her in private or in a social setting to defuse her false claim, especially since the claim did not involve me doing anything legally wrong in the first place [she didn’t even make up a good false claim].

Look: I think men and women should socialize at work and in after work events. However, as a professional who cares about his job, I enjoy the events but I don’t schmooze too much. Not worth risking a job or a career over a misunderstanding. Also: some people do take things too far, and they probably shouldn’t go to work socials at all. During work, I keep away from topics which might offend, and I cultivate peer professional teamwork, not buddies. I never try to date a colleague, not even one with whom I don’t directly work with. I keep an open door policy, and I make sure folks are around who can challenge any fake claims if needed.

I get enough relationships[including my current partner] outside of work — I don’t risk my work in anything, anything which could be misconstrued.

Resident of Frogpondia.

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